When you are contemplating divorce, working closely with an attorney who will explain clearly all rights, options, and consequences can help to ensure that you make decisions that are in your best interests. Contact our firm today to schedule a consultation and case evaluation with an experienced divorce attorney.
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Community property laws seem simple: add up all the marital property and split it in half. In fact, reaching a property settlement in a California divorce is almost always more complicated than that. Inherited or separate property may have been commingled with community property over the years. In some divorces, one spouse may try to hide marital property. Experienced divorce and property division lawyer Brenda McCune helps clients sort out all the facts and is well prepared to negotiate or litigate in order to obtain a fair division of property in your divorce. We encourage you to contact our Brea law office today to request a free consultation.
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A board-certified family law specialist practicing since 1996, attorney Brenda McCune is prepared to deal with both relatively straightforward and extremely complex divorce cases throughout Orange County and in nearby Los Angeles County communities. Her strengths include determined advocacy in matters of property division, including retaining inherited or other separate property for our clients.
At The Law Office of Brenda Lynn McCune, we practice family law exclusively and focus our efforts in California communities such as Brea, Yorba Linda, La Habra, La Mirada, Placentia, Orange, Tustin, Santa Ana, Fountain Valley, Costa Mesa, Huntington Beach, Garden Grove, Irvine, Diamond Bar, Fullerton and Long Beach.
An Amicable Divorce
Divorce is one of the most emotional experiences a person will ever face. The decision to end a marriage is not an easy one and it is often accompanied with anger, fear, and resentment. The negative emotions associated with divorce are responsible for more than hurt feelings; they affect the final outcome of settlement negotiations. Most important, if children are involved, they will suffer. It is in your best interest to approach divorce from an amicable perspective. This will allow you to put on your business hat, which is critical for reaching a successful settlement. It will also allow you to put on your effective parent hat, which is critical for helping your children through this difficult process. An experienced family law attorney at The Law Office of Brenda McCune in Brea, California can help you see your situation clearly and objectively.
Bill Ferguson, a nationally recognized divorce and relationship expert on divorce and healing, recommends several steps that will help you remain amicable with your spouse during divorce proceedings.
Bill describes the cycle of conflict people engage in when ending a marriage. One person says something nasty, the other responds. It takes two people to create and maintain a cycle of conflict. It only takes one person to end it. To end the cycle of conflict, you need to stop fueling it. The following tips will help you end your part in the negative cycle and help you achieve an amicable divorce.
If you don't accept someone as they are, you will end up frustrated and more likely to continue to contribute to the conflict. Face it, your spouse isn't going to change any more than a leopard will change its spots.
2. Feeling Hurt
Feelings of hurt drive more behavior than most people will admit. Often, anger is simply an unwillingness to feel hurt. If you allow yourself to feel hurt, it will run its course more quickly and allow you to move beyond it. Remember, crying is simply a means of relieving stress.
3. What's your part?
Take the time to think about yourself, not the other person. Ignore what they did or said and think about what you did and said. Were you more critical than you should have been? Did you hurt their feelings? Notice how the other person has put up his or her walls of protection and given it back to you. See how your actions have fueled the conflict.
4. Let Go & Forgive
In many ways not letting go is a form of denial. We hang on to avoid feeling pain, but the pain won't go away until we actually experience it. Become willing to feel the hurt and watch the need to hang on disappear and your ability to forgive grow. Forgiveness is for you, not the other person.
An argument is an example of two people talking but no one is listening. Once someone stops to listen, the argument ends. Take the time to listen, then calmly express your opinion and again take the time to listen. You will find solutions.
There are many more tips and techniques you can use to diffuse the tension between you and your spouse. Even if you decide to pursue a divorce, you can make it more amicable. Remember, when you fight to have your side prevail, you force the other person to fight against you. If you are committed to finding solutions that work for both of you, the resistance against you dissolves. It's hard to fight someone who's on your side. Family law attorneys, too, like those at The Law Office of Brenda McCune in Brea, California are interested in reaching an amicable resolution with the least animosity possible, and can be your best allies in achieving the most beneficial resolution.
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